Friday, 19 June 2009
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Too fat for a bikini?
This post is a response to the comments made on TheTheologiansCafe 's post called Too Fat For a Bikini. Dan posted this picture:
Then asked if we thought there was a certain point when someone was too fat for a bikini. Now in my personal opinion, I say to each their own. I don't care what size people are, they can wear whatever they want. If I don't like it, then I won't look! I personally wouldn't wear a bikini because I'm not confident enough to even go swimming without a tank top and shorts. Mostly because I know what kind of things people can say, even when it's none of their concern. But if she's confident in her body and not afraid of what people think, then good for her! Now, I don't care if you think this lady shouldn't be wearing a bikini...
but when I went through some of those comments, people said much worse than that. For example:
1. "Yes, and I think there is also such a thing as too fat for a one-piece as well."
- Oh really? What would you like her to wear while swimming instead buddy? How about she puts on a nice winter coat and some slacks so she can weigh herself down and drown?
2. "That woman should maybe talk to my hubby - he has a brochure on cosmetic surgery, if she's interested.
I think that whatever she's comfortable with is fine, just make sure it fits!"- Did you ever think that maybe she's comfortable with her body and she doesn't want to conform to society by getting cosmetic surgery?"
* This person has since apologized for her actions, and assured me that she didn't mean for it to sound as terrible as it did. It was just an inside joke with her husband. I appreciate it*
3. "YES.
But then, I don't really want to see that lady in a swimsuit, period."
- Don't look at her if you don't want to see her in a swimsuit. She needs to wear some sort of "swimming suit" while in the water.
4. "Beached whale."
- Um, beached whale? What is your problem dude?
-She looks like a beached whale?
-Whatever helps you sleep at night.
-What?
-It wasn't right for you to say that. But if that's what you need to say about others to make yourself feel better at night, then fine.
-I didn't say it to make me feel better, you dumb fat cunt. Stuff attacking skinny good looking people like myself who don't comply to your sensitive feelings.
-Stuff? You mean stop? Glady. I don't want to waste my time speaking to unintelligent people like yourself anyway.
-It's nice knowing that you'll be a miserable fat person all your life, decrying anyone who finds obesity disgusting.
- I can change being fat. You can't change being a complete asshole.
-I doubt it. If you could change, you would. You obviously can't, because you're too busy defending fat people.
- If I could change, I would. I will when I want to. You on the other hand, cannot. I'm not afraid to stand up for what I believe in. I'm not gay, yet I stand up for gay rights... many people find that disgusting too but once again I don't agree.
-How is being fat comparable to being gay?
-It's different. But like you are ridiculing fat people, TONS of others are ridiculing gay people. It's something that's controversial. And it hurts, just the same.
-Fat people deserved to be ridiculed, though.
-NOBODY deserves to be ridiculed. I'm sure at some point in your life, you've been ridiculed and you know how it feels. Many people may say that gay people deserve to be ridiculed but they don't, do they? No. Everyone is going through an inner battle, and it's best if we just leave them alone if we have nothing nice to say.
-Nope, that's idiotic. People need to be ridiculed if society deems them unfitting.
PEOPLE DISGUST ME.
All I'm saying is, people are already self conscious. If they read through those comments, it could really break their spirits. No matter what size people are, they need some sort of suit to wear in the water. The fact that people think they shouldn't wear one at all disgusts me. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and as long as they are covered up enough where they are not showing their private parts... let them do what they want! Go ahead and comment just like on Dan's post. Because if you need to say rude things about other people to make you sleep better at night, then fine. I just needed to get MY opinion out there because one comment wasn't enough.
EDIT* My point was not that this girl looks good in a bikini, or that it's healthy to be her size... but just because someone is doing something unhealthy or unappealing doesn't mean you can say whatever you want about them. I just wanted to get my version out there, because it was too long for a comment.
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Comments (190)
@ElliottStrange -
Yes, I agree that it is unhealthy and I guarantee that most people don't enjoy it. I myself, don't enjoy it. But obese people go through so much and most of the time have a constant battle with themselves. They don't need others putting them down even more when they're just trying their best or living their lives. I know first hand. You don't have to have sympathy, just don't add any extra insensitive comments to the mix ya know?@BrokenBamboo -
Haha, thank you :D I agree.@aznhellaangel -
Exactly! Thank you so much :)If she is comfortable wearing a bikini then more power to her! People can be assholes, but then again there are also the wonderful people out there like you!
Good for you for sticking up for yourself.
Ill be honest too and say that all these blogs against anorexia make me feel bad-not because I am anorexic but because I am just as thin as one and cannot gain weight because thats just how Im built. Then you have these peoples comments about how disgusting super skinny girls are-instead of telling the anorexic that they need to be concerned about their health they tell them they look horrible and no one would wanna sleep with them---Oh YEA THAT HELPS! Jerks...
@HER_PiNKNESS_SURVEYS -
Thank you! Those are exactly my thoughts, everyone has feelings and no matter what they're being ridiculed about... it hurts just the same.@steph843 -
Aw yeah, I have noticed that when it comes to his posts. They really don't realize that people actually think about these things and take it into concern. But yeah, I know they're all insecure about SOMETHING so they just shove all their insecurities into something else. Thank you :)@TheCheshireGrins -
Exactly! :)@The_second_x -
Aw yes, my thoughts exactly :) Haha, why thank you! More people need to be wonderful like you!@xfollowedxthexwavesx -
Right! And thank you! :) I was a little nervous about it, but I'm glad I did.@MidnightChyld -
Yeah, exactly! She's just trying to get up and that picture was taken at the wrong time. Who would take that picture anyway? I understand that maybe she could have worn a worn piece, but really if she's comfortable- who cares! Exactly. And also, I agree! That goes for super skinny people too, they don't want to be ridiculed! It can really hurt a person, no matter what size they are.@justdoit__0523 -
:D Thank you!!@flann00 -
Exactly! Thank you :)people are so ridiculous. granted, i do think that, for the sake of one's health, some people could try to lose some weight, yet not to the point where one is stick skinny, because that, too, is unhealthy. everything goes well in moderation. but because they are a certain shape and body form does not mean a person deserves ridiculing. that's absolutely absurd.
You said it, girl.
@lovesporks -
Yes, I agree. It's unhealthy and they shouldn't be applauded but they shouldn't be ridiculed either :)@thekeyhole -
Thank you!! :D@ccarothers -
Right! Me either!@lovesporks -
good rec.people are ridiculous.
@lovesporks -
Thank you for recommending! :D@BrittMiles27 -
They really are!Andrew (AS90) - the one that made all those "beached whale" comments- is a sad little boy that is so pathetic that he devotes his life to ridiculing others. By the way, in case you didn't know, he IS gay. Even if he lives in the most open-minded city, at one point or another he's probably either a) had to hide his sexuality, or b) been mocked. One or the other, it's inevitable. So, he's the last person that should be mocking others, let alone saying that they DESERVE to be mocked. What would he say to someone mocking him that told him that he deserves to be mocked just because he's gay? I betcha it would break his little heart. In fact, it's probably happened, and this is his way of "taking it out" on others. He needs help. Some serious help.